This will be the shortest post ever (at least by my standards... which isn't really saying that much).
It is now 11 p.m. It has been a long (but good) day. Got tons accomplished. Quick recap: For anyone looking for napkins, spoons, bowls, cups, etc. smartyhadaparty.com is great. I'll give more detailed info about that in a post or two - but for now, I felt all my calm and peace melt away today and a whole new level of stress set in!!! I don't know if it will pass in a day or so when I realize things are fine, but let me explain...
I got the call I have been waiting for for 2 1/2 weeks. The invitations are in. Since the envelopes have been addressed and stamped, all we needed to do was stuff them and take them to the post office.... so I thought. I found several envelopes with mistakes on them. Example: We had 4 that printed out with only one of the spouses names on it. That might be an uncomfortable conversation when the invite comes!!!:
Husband: Did I do something that made the Kimzey's mad? They did not invite me, but they invited you!?!
Wife: Oh. I've always suspected they like me more than you (said in a smug voice)
Husband: (feeling a little defensive) What is that supposed to mean?!?!
The conversation might go on for hours and eventually lead to divorce just because I did not QUADRUPLE check the names and addresses before printing & stamping the envelopes!!! Is this my source of stress?!!?! Not really. That will take a few minutes to print some corrected envelopes, not big deal.
We found a few other problems too: a house number was left off of one, and a few other minor things. Nothing that 10 minutes at the computer won't fix. None of this is the source of by stress, but.....
Not to future self: Save the marriages of the world!!When working on names & addresses when your other children get married, do the QUADRUPLE check. Three is just not enough!!
Why so stressed then? I realized that TOMORROW most of the invites go out!! That means the wedding is REALLY REALLY close!! I all of the sudden feel like it crept up on me and took my by surprise!!! It still seemed like I had tons of time to finish stuff up. I am now regretting taking it so easy last month. I'm not so sure I'm ahead of the game anymore!!
There is the possibility that tomorrow I will congregate all my senses and realize that it is all good, and I really have things under control more than it feels right now, but there is the chance that I will realize - Yeah, you are behind!! If so, I will sweat, pace the floor, maybe call and friend and say "let's go to lunch!", then dig in!!!!!!!!
Just in case, I have some more advise for my future self: When planning future wedding receptions for my children, don't take it so easy in the second month!! Just wait till it's over!
Tuesday, March 29, 2011
Sunday, March 27, 2011
A Mother and Her Wisdom will soon be imParted...(part II)
As promised, I would continue to impart some more of the knowledge I have gained about specific vendors/items/ideas/organization/etc. as I have been striving to put together a nice reception, but not have to stress myself out or sell a kidney to do it. Today it will be about addressing envelopes (this is probably one of the best things I did for time/sanity saving).
This is how this blog will run:
#1: Give an update on my last blog about Kaylee trying to sabotage Amber's wedding
#2: Share my "WOW! It's great to be ahead of schedule" story
then
#3: imParting of Wisdom (what little I have collected)
Let's start...
#1: Give an update on my last blog about Kaylee trying to sabotage Amber's wedding:
First off, I'm just makin' sure everyone was getting my humor: Kaylee never was trying to sabotage anything. After the second time of a company running out of something I wanted to order while I was on the phone with Kaylee, it just became a fun joke Kay & I would banter back and forth about. It's not that I've gotten any comments like "Wow. I can't believe Kaylee was trying to do that!", I just thought I would throw that out there for anyone that did not read to the end of the last blog, or has no humor-radar.
Secondly, since that blog was written (it was written several weeks ago, but just recently posted) there is more to update. The day after placing that frantic gold-medal-typing-performance order for chair covers and sashes, I received a call from the customer support department of the website (usually not a good sign). They informed me that the computer accidentally showed the chair covers as being in stock when they really were not (yeah, not a good sign). They DID have the sashes, but not chair covers. Knowing theirs would not be in stock in time for the reception, they suggested I try CV Linens. They are one of their competitors, but they said they rarely get customers complaining about them (i.e: I got my order from ____ and it was terrible quality and so now I am ordering from you). I looked at their website (cvlinen.com) and they did have the same chair cover, but it was $1 more per cover and I was getting 80.... ouch!! I called and asked if they would price match. They said yes, but ONLY if the other place had it in stock. I informed her that the other place did NOT have it in stock. She then proceeded to ask me what the other website was. Then she asked what the item was and their price. She then put me on hold. She came back a few seconds later and told me they would price match!!! I was shocked (due to the "we will only price match if they have the item in stock" thing). She must have taken pity. I paid for them over the phone and they arrived about 4 days later!!
I thought that was cool!
Moral of the story: If the less expensive place is out of stock, you might as well ask the more expensive place if they price match!
#2: Share my "WOW! It's great to be ahead of schedule" story:
Anyone that knows me understands that when possible, I like to be AHEAD of schedule. Being on time does not account for any unforeseen.... road-bumps (for lack of a better word) . There are the times that I run ON schedule and even, heaven forbid, BEHIND schedule, but whenever possible I try to be AHEAD. This was the case with the invitations. A couple of blogs ago (My first "...Wisdom..imParted...") I mentioned that the invitations were done and ordered. It was beautiful! It was March 4th. Wasn't planning on mailing them out until March 26th. After the 5 days it would take to complete them, that would still put them in my hands more than two weeks early!! Ahhhh... bliss! Yeah - That's what I THOUGHT! Let's just say that today is March 28th (two days AFTER I wanted to mail them out) and the invites are just getting here today or tomorrow. I'll back up a few weeks and explain....
First, on March 5th there was a road bump. Then, on March 7th there were a couple of road bumps. By the time March 9th rolled around my shocks were shot and I was ready for NO MORE ROAD BUMPS! Yeah... that didn't happen. I hit a few more. The problem was not really anyone's fault. It started with cmyk vs. rgb printing issues because I designed the invites myself, and then moved onto other things that just took time to resolve.
The point is: I am SO SO SO SO SO glad that I was ahead of schedule!! I can not imagine how much stress I would have had if we were up against the deadline.
Now, the envelopes are already addressed and stamped. That means we just have to stuff them and that won't take long. They will still go out 3 1/2 weeks ahead, and that is just fine with me. Really, the March 26th deadline was just a "give yourself some time for problems" deadline anyway.
Note to future self planning Kaylee's wedding: stay ahead on everything that you can!!! That way it isn't as stressful when the road-bumps come up.
There are still some decorations that I am making that I should get going on. I really think I can do them in one day - but then again, I thought I was done with the invites a few WEEKS ago....hmmm... maybe I have gotten behind schedule now!!
Okay - on to:
#3: imParting of Wisdom
Today I will share some of the stuff I did to make the invitations a LOT easier than they might have been otherwise. When I say invitations, I am really talking about the process of gathering addresses and then addressing envelopes. This is the one and only area that I have been working on for years, but even at that, I have continued to tweak and refine!!
#1 piece of advise: It is NEVER too early to collect addresses. Over the years I have thought to myself, "Someday I will need to send out wedding invitations to lots of people. I will need their addresses. If I have one of the addresses NOW, shouldn't I write it down?" and then, miraculously, I would listen to myself and write it down! Over the years I have told myself to do some other stellar ideas only to have me not listen and ignor myself. This is one time I'm glad I did what I was told to do! I started out with the old fashioned address book (which I still have), but have since moved to a computer.
I will admit that it has helped a LOT that I send out holiday cards because you need to have addresses for those. AND, anyone I love enough to have been sending a holiday card to all these years, I am most likely going to want to send an invitation to my daughters wedding reception too. I have made a few "tweaks" to my system over the years, but now I have it in a way that works great for me. That does not mean that is how YOU want it, but I can say that it has made a HUGE difference for me. After much trial and error through the years here are things that are helping me now:
That is my imParted Wisdom of the day. I hope it helps someone :)
Now, here's hoping I don't get a call from the customer support department of the company who is printing our invitations!!!
This is how this blog will run:
#1: Give an update on my last blog about Kaylee trying to sabotage Amber's wedding
#2: Share my "WOW! It's great to be ahead of schedule" story
then
#3: imParting of Wisdom (what little I have collected)
Let's start...
#1: Give an update on my last blog about Kaylee trying to sabotage Amber's wedding:
First off, I'm just makin' sure everyone was getting my humor: Kaylee never was trying to sabotage anything. After the second time of a company running out of something I wanted to order while I was on the phone with Kaylee, it just became a fun joke Kay & I would banter back and forth about. It's not that I've gotten any comments like "Wow. I can't believe Kaylee was trying to do that!", I just thought I would throw that out there for anyone that did not read to the end of the last blog, or has no humor-radar.
Secondly, since that blog was written (it was written several weeks ago, but just recently posted) there is more to update. The day after placing that frantic gold-medal-typing-performance order for chair covers and sashes, I received a call from the customer support department of the website (usually not a good sign). They informed me that the computer accidentally showed the chair covers as being in stock when they really were not (yeah, not a good sign). They DID have the sashes, but not chair covers. Knowing theirs would not be in stock in time for the reception, they suggested I try CV Linens. They are one of their competitors, but they said they rarely get customers complaining about them (i.e: I got my order from ____ and it was terrible quality and so now I am ordering from you). I looked at their website (cvlinen.com) and they did have the same chair cover, but it was $1 more per cover and I was getting 80.... ouch!! I called and asked if they would price match. They said yes, but ONLY if the other place had it in stock. I informed her that the other place did NOT have it in stock. She then proceeded to ask me what the other website was. Then she asked what the item was and their price. She then put me on hold. She came back a few seconds later and told me they would price match!!! I was shocked (due to the "we will only price match if they have the item in stock" thing). She must have taken pity. I paid for them over the phone and they arrived about 4 days later!!
I thought that was cool!
Moral of the story: If the less expensive place is out of stock, you might as well ask the more expensive place if they price match!
#2: Share my "WOW! It's great to be ahead of schedule" story:
Anyone that knows me understands that when possible, I like to be AHEAD of schedule. Being on time does not account for any unforeseen.... road-bumps (for lack of a better word) . There are the times that I run ON schedule and even, heaven forbid, BEHIND schedule, but whenever possible I try to be AHEAD. This was the case with the invitations. A couple of blogs ago (My first "...Wisdom..imParted...") I mentioned that the invitations were done and ordered. It was beautiful! It was March 4th. Wasn't planning on mailing them out until March 26th. After the 5 days it would take to complete them, that would still put them in my hands more than two weeks early!! Ahhhh... bliss! Yeah - That's what I THOUGHT! Let's just say that today is March 28th (two days AFTER I wanted to mail them out) and the invites are just getting here today or tomorrow. I'll back up a few weeks and explain....
First, on March 5th there was a road bump. Then, on March 7th there were a couple of road bumps. By the time March 9th rolled around my shocks were shot and I was ready for NO MORE ROAD BUMPS! Yeah... that didn't happen. I hit a few more. The problem was not really anyone's fault. It started with cmyk vs. rgb printing issues because I designed the invites myself, and then moved onto other things that just took time to resolve.
The point is: I am SO SO SO SO SO glad that I was ahead of schedule!! I can not imagine how much stress I would have had if we were up against the deadline.
Now, the envelopes are already addressed and stamped. That means we just have to stuff them and that won't take long. They will still go out 3 1/2 weeks ahead, and that is just fine with me. Really, the March 26th deadline was just a "give yourself some time for problems" deadline anyway.
Note to future self planning Kaylee's wedding: stay ahead on everything that you can!!! That way it isn't as stressful when the road-bumps come up.
There are still some decorations that I am making that I should get going on. I really think I can do them in one day - but then again, I thought I was done with the invites a few WEEKS ago....hmmm... maybe I have gotten behind schedule now!!
Okay - on to:
#3: imParting of Wisdom
Today I will share some of the stuff I did to make the invitations a LOT easier than they might have been otherwise. When I say invitations, I am really talking about the process of gathering addresses and then addressing envelopes. This is the one and only area that I have been working on for years, but even at that, I have continued to tweak and refine!!
#1 piece of advise: It is NEVER too early to collect addresses. Over the years I have thought to myself, "Someday I will need to send out wedding invitations to lots of people. I will need their addresses. If I have one of the addresses NOW, shouldn't I write it down?" and then, miraculously, I would listen to myself and write it down! Over the years I have told myself to do some other stellar ideas only to have me not listen and ignor myself. This is one time I'm glad I did what I was told to do! I started out with the old fashioned address book (which I still have), but have since moved to a computer.
I will admit that it has helped a LOT that I send out holiday cards because you need to have addresses for those. AND, anyone I love enough to have been sending a holiday card to all these years, I am most likely going to want to send an invitation to my daughters wedding reception too. I have made a few "tweaks" to my system over the years, but now I have it in a way that works great for me. That does not mean that is how YOU want it, but I can say that it has made a HUGE difference for me. After much trial and error through the years here are things that are helping me now:
- Keep your addresses on the computer (but always make a back up). I use Microsoft Outlook. If you do not have it, I suggest you get something. You can even keep track of them in Excel, or some other spreadsheet. BUT make sure it is one where you can categorize!!! (see two bullets down) When they are on a computer you can print labels or do what we did - print directly onto the envelope. The most important key here: It's never too early to start. I've had some addresses on my computer for over 15 years. As the years go on, my system has gotten more and more refined, but you have to start somewhere. Even if your oldest kid is 10 - when the wedding rolls around you will be SO glad if you start doing this now.
- Enter them in correctly the first time! Example: If your friend is John Smith, but you know that when a holiday card or wedding announcement gets mailed out you want it to read "Mr. & Mrs. John Smith" or "The John Smith Family", then enter it in that way for the initial entry. I had to spend a bit of time "cleaning up" contacts that I did not enter correct the first time. Sometimes the initial entry (that may have been a few years ago) was just an email address, but I still put them in the "Wedding" category if I knew we would want to send them an invite. It sill put me ahead as far as collecting names, even if I had to hunt the address down now. Also, if you don't want name of states or "Lane", "North", "South, "Drive", "Apartment", etc. abbreviated on a card or announcement, don't abbreviate it when you put it in the first time!! (I just recently realized this. Luckily there is a "Find & Replace" in Microsoft Outlook - saved me TONS of time!)
- Make categories for your contacts. This is really where you can hit gold! I contact many different groups of people for many different things and "categories" in my contacts list have saved me over the years. I am the "Choir Mom President" and I have a category for each of the choirs. If I need to send an email out to the Concert Choir parents, I open that category and select "email all". Works like a charm!! Many of the choir people are also my friends that get holiday cards and will get an invitation to the wedding. Those people would have several categories assigned to them. The real pay off for this will show up when I talk about "Sort" in about two more bullet points.
- Get correct postage on out-of-country addresses. (I learned this one the hard way) When I did my holiday cards this year I mail-merged and printed all of my envelopes, stamped them & mailed them. A few days later I got one of the envelopes back because it was the the Philippines and we did not put correct postage on it. We had just sat and smacked stamps on them and did not pay attention to where they went. This is EASY to fix with the following....
- Sort smartly and you'll be... happy (so disappointing! I was wanting a lovely alliteration of "S" words but couldn't come up with anything) First of all - don't let this part make your head explode. It might sound overwhelming, but it is SO underwhelming, but one of the most useful "organizational" things I have done. To explain it, I will tell you my nightmare and then my dream. Nightmare: While stuffing 400 addressed envelopes where names are in random order, we accidentally miss adding the ceremony invite to some crucial person - like my brother or Grandma!! The dream: Categories and addresses that allow me to sort!! Here is how the dream worked for me: I have had a "Wedding" category in my contacts list for several years. As stated above, if I was entering in an address of someone I might want to send an invite to, I just did one click of the mouse and added them to that category (takes less time than entering a zip code). Since starting on this wedding I have further refine that, and now I have 4 wedding categories (you'll see why later): ceremony, luncheon, map, invite. It REALLY was still as easy as a click, click, click of the mouse. When a new contact was entered (because there were still tons of contacts we had NOT entered yet) I just assigned them a category at the same time I put the address in. It really was only one more click of the mouse. Before printing my envelopes I did three quick things: 1st, Sorted by country (took around .5 seconds). 2nd, sorted by category (took around .5 seconds). 3rd, sorted each category by last name, then first name (took about 3 minutes, no, probably 2). Then I mail merged and printed them directly onto the envelopes (easy to do with the "help" guides of most software, or by calling me). Now, all envelopes going out of the country are all together and not mixed in with the others. I can now make sure they all have the proper postage. I also have all of the envelopes going to people we are inviting to the ceremony all together - no accidentally missing brothers or grandmas! Same with those with those invited to the luncheon, who need a map, and who are receiving an invitation. I hope this does not sound complicated!! Trust me, it really is not AND it saves SO SO SO much time. Mitch's mom in technology-challenged so I made a spread sheet in Excel for her. It was easy for her and worked great and I was able to sort her addresses too. If you are really serious about this, email me and I will send you the spread sheet for you to get started. It is SOOOO easy!!
- You can find who you have on your list! This is another way it can really save your sanity. When you are a month or so into planning a reception and gathering addresses and all the other stuff, you will stop and think, "Is great-aunt Mary on our invitation list?". I PROMISE YOU, this will happen! If you have your list on a computer, all you need to do is have it listed alphabetically and it only takes a moment to go to your list and check. If you just have it written down, you have to slowly look through THE WHOLE LIST (sometimes more than once) and really, there are better uses of your time!
That is my imParted Wisdom of the day. I hope it helps someone :)
Now, here's hoping I don't get a call from the customer support department of the company who is printing our invitations!!!
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
A Mother and her Online Order will soon be parted...
Or, more appropriately named: KAYLEE IS TRYING SABOTAGE THIS WEDDING!!!!
I know it sounds dramatic, but it's true. Let me explain...
I wanted to buy some chair covers for the wedding reception. I did LOTS of checking around, ordered a sample or two, found the kind that works the best over the chairs we are using. Since the wedding was still several weeks away, I didn't JUMP on ordering them, I just bookmarked on my computer the website and figured I'd get to it in the next week. When I went to place the order they were out of stock! Bummer. I called them and they said that they would have them back in stock in a week or so. I wasn't that worried, but...
This led me to check their website no less than 10 times a day to see if they were back in stock (obsessive? probably - but I would only do it when I was already at the computer doing other things). After a week or so, I got online. I saw they were in stock. I started the order. I was to the part where I put in my shipping address when..... (dramatic drum roll...) KAYLEE logs onto her Skype account and I get the "hello, Mommy. Are you there?" window popping up in the bottom right hand corner of my computer monitor.
How can I pass up the chance to chat with her? I LOVE my daughter (or at least I used to before I realized that she was trying to sabotage the wedding!). A little bit later I finished my talk with Kaylee. I returned to my order, but something was wrong. It was not letting me process the order. What could be wrong??? This is what I found: While I was talking to my daughter, they ran out of stock AGAIN!!!
At first I was not suspicious of Kaylee. I thought it a mere coincidence. I called the company again. They now said they didn't know when they would get them in, but hopefully it would be within the next week or so.
Flash forward a few days. Checking the website has become even MORE of an obsession. Then I remember a lesson I have learned the hard way: if there are shoes at Ross that you like - Just get them! Don't wait! They may not be there the next time you go back! This applies because I realized that there was something else I wanted to order from the same website and it WAS in stock. I decided I might as well order it now.
I went to the computer, I put my item in the "shopping cart". Just as I clicked the "check out" button I got the all-to-familiar window popping up in the bottom right hand corner of my computer monitor: "Mommy! Are you there?" It was Kaylee again.
Remember, I'm not suspicious yet about the reality that Kaylee is trying to ruin this wedding (or at least the reception). Once again, I stopped what I was doing and chatted with Kaylee for a bit. When I was done I went back to my order and..... I PROMISE I am NOT making this up.... the item I had placed in my shopping cart was NOW OUT OF STOCK!!
I then put the pieces together and realized that Kaylee was a force to be reckoned with. She had always SEEMED so sweet before. Always APPEARED to be so supportive and happy for Amber. Now she had shown her cards and IT... WAS... WAR!!
I called customer service for the website and they said: "they are on a boat coming from China and we don't know for sure when they will get here, but it will be by April 30th".... Are we remembering here that the reception is on April 23rd?!?!?
When I "chatted" with Kaylee (we mostly instant message on Skype), her response was (and this is a direct quote): MAWAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!! I believe this statement would be admissible in court and cause any jury to deliver a GUILTY verdict!!
I went back to other websites with the same item two items, but it was SO much more expensive anywhere else. I was bummed at the thought of paying more when it was less expensive elsewhere. At this point I still had many weeks where I can wait, so I decided to just give it a little bit of time to see what happened.
About 5 days later I was on the computer working on something else. I was in a HUGE hurry and so when the "Mommy, are you there" popped up in the lower right hand corner of my computer monitor, I had to ignore it for a moment. As I kept working I was laughing to myself thinking wouldn't that be funny if the chair covers and sashes were in stock right now, but if I were to talk to Kaylee they would have disappeared by the time I was done talking with her? Solely for the purpose of amusing myself, I checked the website. THEY WERE IN STOCK!!! My fingers flew across the keyboard. I have never typed in my shipping address so fast. If typing were an Olympic sport, in this one moment I would have pulled in a Gold Medal!! When I hit the "submit" button sweat was pouring down my face like I'd run a marathon and my heart rate was in the low 200's!....
okay, that was an exaggeration for the purpose of dramatic affect. I really would have won the gold medal, but there was no sweat and my heart rate couldn't have been over 180!
After I finished my order, for some reason I went back to the website and.... wait for it..... THEY WERE OUT OF STOCK AGAIN!! Yes. It is true. I did not make this up! I had gotten the last of them. I started laughing at the thought that if I would have talked to Kaylee I really would have missed out again.
I jumped on Skype to see if she was still there so we could laugh about it together. I found her there and when I informed her that she was unable to sabotage the reception she answered (again, a direct quote): BLAST!!!!
The reality was that, the morning before I reread my Wedding Motto (see bottom of first post) that i had posted on my bathroom mirror and realized that: chair covers or no chair covers did not matter. I was going to keep it in perspective and not stressed over such a silly thing. Then, ironically, the next day I was able to get them.
Now for those of you coming to the reception, don't hold your breath over the anticipation of seeing these chair covers that have caused such a fuss. They are just white. There is nothing special about them other than they are slightly prettier than the chairs they are covering.
Here is my Note To Future Self Planning Kaylee's Reception (or anyone else reading this who has a reception to plan): February is Chinese New Year and the whole country shuts down for an entire month!! That means that businesses selling things made in China (that would be most on-line wedding stuff) will run out of stock and then take awhile getting things back in stock in the early spring months. If you find something and you know you want it, just get it. Don't wait. Otherwise you will do what Kyle and I have done over many pairs of shoes at Ross: "Dang! Why did I wait? I knew there was a chance they would not be there when I came back!"
As far as Kaylee goes, she has succumbed to the fact that she can not ruin this reception!! Okay, okay. Kaylee was never really trying to sabotage the reception. That was just some fun that we were all having with it!.....
or was it?..........
P.S. For those that don't know Kaylee - really, it was just something we had fun joking about. A girl who is happier for her sister you will have a hard time finding :)
I know it sounds dramatic, but it's true. Let me explain...
I wanted to buy some chair covers for the wedding reception. I did LOTS of checking around, ordered a sample or two, found the kind that works the best over the chairs we are using. Since the wedding was still several weeks away, I didn't JUMP on ordering them, I just bookmarked on my computer the website and figured I'd get to it in the next week. When I went to place the order they were out of stock! Bummer. I called them and they said that they would have them back in stock in a week or so. I wasn't that worried, but...
This led me to check their website no less than 10 times a day to see if they were back in stock (obsessive? probably - but I would only do it when I was already at the computer doing other things). After a week or so, I got online. I saw they were in stock. I started the order. I was to the part where I put in my shipping address when..... (dramatic drum roll...) KAYLEE logs onto her Skype account and I get the "hello, Mommy. Are you there?" window popping up in the bottom right hand corner of my computer monitor.
How can I pass up the chance to chat with her? I LOVE my daughter (or at least I used to before I realized that she was trying to sabotage the wedding!). A little bit later I finished my talk with Kaylee. I returned to my order, but something was wrong. It was not letting me process the order. What could be wrong??? This is what I found: While I was talking to my daughter, they ran out of stock AGAIN!!!
At first I was not suspicious of Kaylee. I thought it a mere coincidence. I called the company again. They now said they didn't know when they would get them in, but hopefully it would be within the next week or so.
Flash forward a few days. Checking the website has become even MORE of an obsession. Then I remember a lesson I have learned the hard way: if there are shoes at Ross that you like - Just get them! Don't wait! They may not be there the next time you go back! This applies because I realized that there was something else I wanted to order from the same website and it WAS in stock. I decided I might as well order it now.
I went to the computer, I put my item in the "shopping cart". Just as I clicked the "check out" button I got the all-to-familiar window popping up in the bottom right hand corner of my computer monitor: "Mommy! Are you there?" It was Kaylee again.
Remember, I'm not suspicious yet about the reality that Kaylee is trying to ruin this wedding (or at least the reception). Once again, I stopped what I was doing and chatted with Kaylee for a bit. When I was done I went back to my order and..... I PROMISE I am NOT making this up.... the item I had placed in my shopping cart was NOW OUT OF STOCK!!
I then put the pieces together and realized that Kaylee was a force to be reckoned with. She had always SEEMED so sweet before. Always APPEARED to be so supportive and happy for Amber. Now she had shown her cards and IT... WAS... WAR!!
I called customer service for the website and they said: "they are on a boat coming from China and we don't know for sure when they will get here, but it will be by April 30th".... Are we remembering here that the reception is on April 23rd?!?!?
When I "chatted" with Kaylee (we mostly instant message on Skype), her response was (and this is a direct quote): MAWAHAHAHAHA!!!!!!!! I believe this statement would be admissible in court and cause any jury to deliver a GUILTY verdict!!
I went back to other websites with the same item two items, but it was SO much more expensive anywhere else. I was bummed at the thought of paying more when it was less expensive elsewhere. At this point I still had many weeks where I can wait, so I decided to just give it a little bit of time to see what happened.
About 5 days later I was on the computer working on something else. I was in a HUGE hurry and so when the "Mommy, are you there" popped up in the lower right hand corner of my computer monitor, I had to ignore it for a moment. As I kept working I was laughing to myself thinking wouldn't that be funny if the chair covers and sashes were in stock right now, but if I were to talk to Kaylee they would have disappeared by the time I was done talking with her? Solely for the purpose of amusing myself, I checked the website. THEY WERE IN STOCK!!! My fingers flew across the keyboard. I have never typed in my shipping address so fast. If typing were an Olympic sport, in this one moment I would have pulled in a Gold Medal!! When I hit the "submit" button sweat was pouring down my face like I'd run a marathon and my heart rate was in the low 200's!....
okay, that was an exaggeration for the purpose of dramatic affect. I really would have won the gold medal, but there was no sweat and my heart rate couldn't have been over 180!
After I finished my order, for some reason I went back to the website and.... wait for it..... THEY WERE OUT OF STOCK AGAIN!! Yes. It is true. I did not make this up! I had gotten the last of them. I started laughing at the thought that if I would have talked to Kaylee I really would have missed out again.
I jumped on Skype to see if she was still there so we could laugh about it together. I found her there and when I informed her that she was unable to sabotage the reception she answered (again, a direct quote): BLAST!!!!
The reality was that, the morning before I reread my Wedding Motto (see bottom of first post) that i had posted on my bathroom mirror and realized that: chair covers or no chair covers did not matter. I was going to keep it in perspective and not stressed over such a silly thing. Then, ironically, the next day I was able to get them.
Now for those of you coming to the reception, don't hold your breath over the anticipation of seeing these chair covers that have caused such a fuss. They are just white. There is nothing special about them other than they are slightly prettier than the chairs they are covering.
Here is my Note To Future Self Planning Kaylee's Reception (or anyone else reading this who has a reception to plan): February is Chinese New Year and the whole country shuts down for an entire month!! That means that businesses selling things made in China (that would be most on-line wedding stuff) will run out of stock and then take awhile getting things back in stock in the early spring months. If you find something and you know you want it, just get it. Don't wait. Otherwise you will do what Kyle and I have done over many pairs of shoes at Ross: "Dang! Why did I wait? I knew there was a chance they would not be there when I came back!"
As far as Kaylee goes, she has succumbed to the fact that she can not ruin this reception!! Okay, okay. Kaylee was never really trying to sabotage the reception. That was just some fun that we were all having with it!.....
or was it?..........
P.S. For those that don't know Kaylee - really, it was just something we had fun joking about. A girl who is happier for her sister you will have a hard time finding :)
Friday, March 4, 2011
A Mother and her Wisdom will soon be imParted.... (part I)
Here's how this blog is gonna break down:
#1. The last month
#2. The last week
#3. The imParting of all of the "Vendor Wisdom" I have come across, Part I
#1. The Last Month:
No blog for a month?!?!? How could this be? Everyone keeps asking why I haven't posted a blog. Well the truth is, I took a month off. Not in ALL area's of life, just wedding stuff. We went nuts the first few weeks, got TONS done, so after the engagement and bridal pictures we decided (and by we I mean I) to go on "mental wedding vacation". It was intended to be about a 3 week vacation. It turned into an extra week because several (and by several I mean one) obstacles (and by obstacles I mean Amber) got in my way. Let me explain...
My daughter is in love with Mitch. Since they are getting married this is a good thing. Unfortunately this love has caused a very unfortunate side-effect: her brain turned off, went on vacation or went into hibernation mode. The next step we needed to tackle was the invitations, but I could not move forward without sitting down with her and getting some input and direction. Finding a time when Amber could sit down with me took over a week - I'm really not lying - it took over one week! Between Amber being in love in the morning, THEN being in love in both the afternoon AND evening just made it more complicated than I thought it would be. I will cut her some slack since she is working two different jobs AT THE SAME TIME as being in love (I don't know how she does it!!!!) :)
Amber finally had her brain come visit us for a brief time and it was just enough to get the information needed, decisions made and accomplish something. YEAH! As of last night, the invitations are at the printers!! I should get a proof later today, or on Monday. This makes me smile :)
In Amber's defense, she is really cute and that does make up a lot for taking too long to sit down with her mom and get invitations done.
#2. The Last Week:
WOW! Worst week of wedding planning yet!!! It wouldn't be for everyone, but it was for me. Once again, let me explain...
All we really have left is invitations (ordering, addressing, stamping, stuffing, mailing) and decorations. On the decorations we just need to get a little more info on some things, and on other things just make that final "let's do THAT one" and then order, borrow or make it. To get those final bits of info before making decisions, I was on the internet a LOT this week looking around at pricing, reviews, etc. (stay tuned: my leg work on all that will start to be revealed in #3). What drove me crazy is that I was busy with this ALL WEEK - but then I didn't make any final decisions on anything! It made me feel like I was spinning my wheels all week. Here is an example: One of Amber's colors is a really hard to name blue. We want some blue bows. Found a place online that I like, good reviews (well... I'll address this in #3 too), etc. BUT they have several different blues that COULD work, but you can't really tell the true color of something from your computer screen. So what did I do?
I just stared at the computer for two days thinking that if I looked long enough I would start to instinctively know if their Turquoise had more green than blue, or blue than green. I did get opinions from friends. Then I stared at the computer again. Then I ordered sample packets of colors so I can see them in living color before buying the stuff. What should I have done? JUST ORDER THE SAMPLE PACKETS FIRST!! Sometimes I think I'm just a freak about things. Even though I have tons of time, I just wanted the thrill of ordering something and calling it "done" and so I didn't want to wait for the sample packets to come before I decided. Stupid, I know. I have the patience of a 3 year old sometimes.
That is the perfect example of what my week was like. I actually did THE EXACT SAME THING with paper lanterns. When I couldn't take staring at the bows anymore I would switch to the lanterns. It went back and forth several times. Well... the samples are on their way and I feel 42 years old again instead of 3.
The side effect of my week is that my house gone to pot. My little cleaning elves never came in the middle of the night to clean up my messes! Okay, they have NEVER shown up, but a girl can keep dreaming.
As I mentioned earlier, the week wasn't completely void of unfinished tasks. We did get the invitations designed and ordered. That finally fulfilled my appetite for checking off at least one "done" box on my list.
#3. The imParting (get the pun? my blog is always about me "Parting" with something, now it's "imParting"... I thought it was cleaver) of all of the "Vendor Wisdom" I have come across, Part I
Things I have been asked to specifically address are:
Do you remember years ago when Oprah said she was never going to eat another hamburger for the rest of her life after viewing some video about the beef industry? Well, if you didn't, here is the rundown: Stock prices for beef plummeted!! It caused such a crisis for that industry that beef owners in Texas got together and SUED Oprah for slander! I know, I know - It sounds like something I would make up - but this really happened. If you don't believe me, go google it. It went to trial and everything. Luckily she was not found guilty, which is why we are still able have the Oprah book club on TV instead of from cell block 23.... (side note: it was during this trial that she met Dr. Phil)....
I am about to do to the local linen rental industry what Oprah did to the beef owners! Will it cause local linen rental stocks to plumit? Hope not. Will it possibly offend a local business owner? Possibly. Will it save someone else a little bit of stress and money when they are planning a wedding, or other event? Hope so.
Linens:
This can get pricey. REAL pricey
.
The first thing I checked on was the 120" round (will cover a 5' rd table and hang to the floor) blk/wh demask (some call it flocking) tablecloth. The demask pattern is in this picture, but it is the overlay, not the tablecloth. (This is in case you didn't know what it looked like. Before I started asking around I always refereed to it as "the one table cloth that is black and white and there is a pattern on it like a... not swirls, but... kind of like a..." and then I trailed off). Forevermore Events in St. George will rent you a demask 120" round tablecloth for $27.95. If you go online you can BUY them cheaper and then you'll OWN them. Go to ebay right now and you'll find 10 of them for $23.49 each. I think that is a way better deal. Is it better quality? (To be addressed in a few paragraphs)
The next thing I checked was the same size tablecloth in plain black or plain white. At Forevermore Events either color rents for $12.95. At linentablecloth.com I can buy that same cloth for $11.15. Again, I would then OWN them to use at my other daughters reception, my boys date-dance dinners at my house, possible open houses for my sons, etc.
For me, the demask was SO much more that I decided it was not worth the extra cost. I am going with white rounds and colored runners.
Now we'll talk runners. It's the same thing as the linens. JUST BUY THEM! Forevermore Events rents them for $4.95. The most expensive ones I found at the sites I was looking at were $4.29 with most being under $2.99.
Quality? (just give me a few more paragraphs)
No different with chair sashes. Forevermore Events rents chair sashes for $1.99-$3.00. $1.99 was the MOST expensive I found on line, with most being under $1.50.
As far as chair covers, I know that I thought the price was so silly from Forevermore Events that I didn't even write it down in my Bible (our name for the binder that holds "all-things-wedding").
I feel like I have been slamming Forevermore Events. Let me point out a few things before I show my spreadsheet and wrap this blog up:
I know people that have used Forevermore Events and had a GREAT experience. I am not saying they are bad in any way. You walk in and say I want that, that, that, and that. You walk out and they do the rest. For what they do, it's great. I AM saying that if you are looking for a way to make the wedding budget stretch the furthest, I think there are better ways.
NOW I will talk about reviews, quality & your own personal effort:
Reviews: Beware - some sites have ONLY positive reviews. They also say you can earn "points" (good for a few cents off your purchase) if you submit a review on a product that gets approved. This lets me know they filter the reviews and so they are tainted. My point is: don't ALWAYS trust reviews.
Quality: I don't know how good the quality is on any of the stuff from online. How good does it have to be if it is going to sit there for two hours while people have a little refreshment and a drink? Everyone has their own opinion on that. My suggestion is to do what I have done: just order 1 of something, or a sample pack. Just do it when you START looking, not after two days of computer staring and your house going to pot :)
Personal Effort: If you rent the linens they will press them and clean them. You don't have to do it, or store them after. If that is a big deal to you then you will not save money, but you will save time and space in your storage room.
Before I show you my spreadsheet on price comparisons in linens, two things: #1. Many of these sites also sell ribbons and bolts of material that match, and #2, does anyone know a good lawyer in case the owner of Forevermore Events reads this blog! :)
#1. The last month
#2. The last week
#3. The imParting of all of the "Vendor Wisdom" I have come across, Part I
#1. The Last Month:
No blog for a month?!?!? How could this be? Everyone keeps asking why I haven't posted a blog. Well the truth is, I took a month off. Not in ALL area's of life, just wedding stuff. We went nuts the first few weeks, got TONS done, so after the engagement and bridal pictures we decided (and by we I mean I) to go on "mental wedding vacation". It was intended to be about a 3 week vacation. It turned into an extra week because several (and by several I mean one) obstacles (and by obstacles I mean Amber) got in my way. Let me explain...
My daughter is in love with Mitch. Since they are getting married this is a good thing. Unfortunately this love has caused a very unfortunate side-effect: her brain turned off, went on vacation or went into hibernation mode. The next step we needed to tackle was the invitations, but I could not move forward without sitting down with her and getting some input and direction. Finding a time when Amber could sit down with me took over a week - I'm really not lying - it took over one week! Between Amber being in love in the morning, THEN being in love in both the afternoon AND evening just made it more complicated than I thought it would be. I will cut her some slack since she is working two different jobs AT THE SAME TIME as being in love (I don't know how she does it!!!!) :)
Amber finally had her brain come visit us for a brief time and it was just enough to get the information needed, decisions made and accomplish something. YEAH! As of last night, the invitations are at the printers!! I should get a proof later today, or on Monday. This makes me smile :)
In Amber's defense, she is really cute and that does make up a lot for taking too long to sit down with her mom and get invitations done.
#2. The Last Week:
WOW! Worst week of wedding planning yet!!! It wouldn't be for everyone, but it was for me. Once again, let me explain...
All we really have left is invitations (ordering, addressing, stamping, stuffing, mailing) and decorations. On the decorations we just need to get a little more info on some things, and on other things just make that final "let's do THAT one" and then order, borrow or make it. To get those final bits of info before making decisions, I was on the internet a LOT this week looking around at pricing, reviews, etc. (stay tuned: my leg work on all that will start to be revealed in #3). What drove me crazy is that I was busy with this ALL WEEK - but then I didn't make any final decisions on anything! It made me feel like I was spinning my wheels all week. Here is an example: One of Amber's colors is a really hard to name blue. We want some blue bows. Found a place online that I like, good reviews (well... I'll address this in #3 too), etc. BUT they have several different blues that COULD work, but you can't really tell the true color of something from your computer screen. So what did I do?
I just stared at the computer for two days thinking that if I looked long enough I would start to instinctively know if their Turquoise had more green than blue, or blue than green. I did get opinions from friends. Then I stared at the computer again. Then I ordered sample packets of colors so I can see them in living color before buying the stuff. What should I have done? JUST ORDER THE SAMPLE PACKETS FIRST!! Sometimes I think I'm just a freak about things. Even though I have tons of time, I just wanted the thrill of ordering something and calling it "done" and so I didn't want to wait for the sample packets to come before I decided. Stupid, I know. I have the patience of a 3 year old sometimes.
That is the perfect example of what my week was like. I actually did THE EXACT SAME THING with paper lanterns. When I couldn't take staring at the bows anymore I would switch to the lanterns. It went back and forth several times. Well... the samples are on their way and I feel 42 years old again instead of 3.
The side effect of my week is that my house gone to pot. My little cleaning elves never came in the middle of the night to clean up my messes! Okay, they have NEVER shown up, but a girl can keep dreaming.
As I mentioned earlier, the week wasn't completely void of unfinished tasks. We did get the invitations designed and ordered. That finally fulfilled my appetite for checking off at least one "done" box on my list.
#3. The imParting (get the pun? my blog is always about me "Parting" with something, now it's "imParting"... I thought it was cleaver) of all of the "Vendor Wisdom" I have come across, Part I
Things I have been asked to specifically address are:
- Where are you finding the best deals?
- How did you pick __________ (insert: linens, flowers, photographer, cake decorator, venue, etc.)
- Where are you finding the best deals?
- How do you keep organized?
- Where are you finding the best deals?(sensing a trend about best deals? By far my most asked question)
Do you remember years ago when Oprah said she was never going to eat another hamburger for the rest of her life after viewing some video about the beef industry? Well, if you didn't, here is the rundown: Stock prices for beef plummeted!! It caused such a crisis for that industry that beef owners in Texas got together and SUED Oprah for slander! I know, I know - It sounds like something I would make up - but this really happened. If you don't believe me, go google it. It went to trial and everything. Luckily she was not found guilty, which is why we are still able have the Oprah book club on TV instead of from cell block 23.... (side note: it was during this trial that she met Dr. Phil)....
I am about to do to the local linen rental industry what Oprah did to the beef owners! Will it cause local linen rental stocks to plumit? Hope not. Will it possibly offend a local business owner? Possibly. Will it save someone else a little bit of stress and money when they are planning a wedding, or other event? Hope so.
Linens:
This can get pricey. REAL pricey
.The first thing I checked on was the 120" round (will cover a 5' rd table and hang to the floor) blk/wh demask (some call it flocking) tablecloth. The demask pattern is in this picture, but it is the overlay, not the tablecloth. (This is in case you didn't know what it looked like. Before I started asking around I always refereed to it as "the one table cloth that is black and white and there is a pattern on it like a... not swirls, but... kind of like a..." and then I trailed off). Forevermore Events in St. George will rent you a demask 120" round tablecloth for $27.95. If you go online you can BUY them cheaper and then you'll OWN them. Go to ebay right now and you'll find 10 of them for $23.49 each. I think that is a way better deal. Is it better quality? (To be addressed in a few paragraphs)
The next thing I checked was the same size tablecloth in plain black or plain white. At Forevermore Events either color rents for $12.95. At linentablecloth.com I can buy that same cloth for $11.15. Again, I would then OWN them to use at my other daughters reception, my boys date-dance dinners at my house, possible open houses for my sons, etc.
For me, the demask was SO much more that I decided it was not worth the extra cost. I am going with white rounds and colored runners.
Now we'll talk runners. It's the same thing as the linens. JUST BUY THEM! Forevermore Events rents them for $4.95. The most expensive ones I found at the sites I was looking at were $4.29 with most being under $2.99.
Quality? (just give me a few more paragraphs)No different with chair sashes. Forevermore Events rents chair sashes for $1.99-$3.00. $1.99 was the MOST expensive I found on line, with most being under $1.50.
As far as chair covers, I know that I thought the price was so silly from Forevermore Events that I didn't even write it down in my Bible (our name for the binder that holds "all-things-wedding").
I feel like I have been slamming Forevermore Events. Let me point out a few things before I show my spreadsheet and wrap this blog up:
I know people that have used Forevermore Events and had a GREAT experience. I am not saying they are bad in any way. You walk in and say I want that, that, that, and that. You walk out and they do the rest. For what they do, it's great. I AM saying that if you are looking for a way to make the wedding budget stretch the furthest, I think there are better ways.
NOW I will talk about reviews, quality & your own personal effort:
Reviews: Beware - some sites have ONLY positive reviews. They also say you can earn "points" (good for a few cents off your purchase) if you submit a review on a product that gets approved. This lets me know they filter the reviews and so they are tainted. My point is: don't ALWAYS trust reviews.
Quality: I don't know how good the quality is on any of the stuff from online. How good does it have to be if it is going to sit there for two hours while people have a little refreshment and a drink? Everyone has their own opinion on that. My suggestion is to do what I have done: just order 1 of something, or a sample pack. Just do it when you START looking, not after two days of computer staring and your house going to pot :)
Personal Effort: If you rent the linens they will press them and clean them. You don't have to do it, or store them after. If that is a big deal to you then you will not save money, but you will save time and space in your storage room.
Before I show you my spreadsheet on price comparisons in linens, two things: #1. Many of these sites also sell ribbons and bolts of material that match, and #2, does anyone know a good lawyer in case the owner of Forevermore Events reads this blog! :)
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